Guidance From the Guides “Looking For God” © 2009 Tobi Titchener/myspiritguides.com

The other day I was thinking about praying.  I was thinking about back to when I was a child and prayed to God, and how far away God seemed to me.  From what I was told about God, I developed some strange ideas about him.  God seemed to be a man who sat on a far away cloud.  I always thought God may or may not hear my prayers, depending on how busy he was.  I doubted that I knew God, or would ever have the privilege to meet him.  It was the exact opposite of what I now know in my heart to be true.

Even up until recently I found myself focusing my attention outside of myself when I spoke to God.  One night, after my meditation I suddenly realized that I should be focusing my consciousness and attention on my heart.  That is where God is.  God doesn’t reside on some far away distant cloud, God is right inside of me and inside of you.  We are God.  We are all Divine Individuations of the Whole.  We are God expressing ourselves in this earth plane.  We are not separate, we have never been nor could we ever be.  It took me 36 years to realize and “know” that.

Many things in our world seem to take us away from that fact.  We are energetic beings that are all one, yet this learning ground called Earth makes us forget that.  We have all heard the adage, “What you do to others you do to yourself,” or the golden rule “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  This takes on an entirely new and fresh meaning if you look at it through the eyes of “oneness.”  There is no outside of you really, everything is connected and inclusive.

This may sound kind of heavy, or challenging for some to truly believe or grasp.  Think of it another way, think of your vibration.  We all have a vibration based on our thoughts and actions.  If you think harmful things about someone, or send aggressive energy, you damage your own vibration as much as you do theirs.  Actually, more I believe!  Think about the annoying person on the road and how you called them every name in the book this morning because they were going slow in the fast lane.  Trust me, it affected you a LOT more than it affected them!  It is a challenging lesson, but one worth the effort.

So back to my original thought about God and finding that connection in your heart.  I believe “God” to be a lot different than many would have us believe.  Nowadays, I can find God anywhere and everywhere.  If I am balanced in my life-connected, and “in the flow”, then God goes wherever I go.  If I spend a lot of time or energy doing things that take me out of the flow, then I cannot feel God anymore.  The idea is to do the things that make you feel connected.  If it is based in love, if it brings you joy, if your Spirit soars at the very idea of it, then do it!  Everything that makes you stressed, angry, frustrated, hurt, hateful, exhausted, etc…I say skip it!  All those things are a distraction from your true nature. 

Ask yourself, “Is this relationship reflecting who I really am?”  “Is this job a reflection of the true joyful nature of my Spirit?”  “Is this anger something that brings me closer to God and my true nature-or further away?”  Those would be ego issues, and the ego likes to keep you disconnected.  The key is to recognize when you are letting ego win out, and do something about it!

You can actually go through life with God in your heart always (I interchange love and light both for God).  If you follow your heart and do the things that you know bring your inner light through-imagine what a beacon of promise you could be for others if you were able to hold this space and set this example. 

My advice….next time you pray, put your hand on your heart and remember your Divinity.  Remember how wonderful and perfect your true nature is.  Remember how wonderful and perfect the true nature is of the person that cut you off this morning in traffic.  It’s all in the way you look at it, and what you “remember” of the truth.  You might find that if you are a little easier on yourself, you will allow the guy in traffic some leeway too.  Try it, and see how good it feels to let your light shine through!

June 11th, 2009

Guidance From The Guides-”Spring Is In the Air” © 2009 Tobi Titchener/myspiritguides.com

Spring has sprung, and love is in the air!  Everywhere you look squirrels are engaging in a game of “tag your it”, birds are busy building nests, and even us humans are antsy and wanting to get out and do things.  Every spring we experience a renewed sense of purpose and an excitement for new and fresh things.  Often this is also a time for new love. 

It seems that each time we meet a new person, the anticipation is sweet for that wonderful fantasy relationship that we have been creating all along in our head.  For people that have chosen to do their soul lessons in relationships, it is easy to become obsessed with finding that significant other that will bring the love and light we crave.  In the spirit of spring, I would like to bring through some Guidance from Spirit to help us all in our new and old relationships!

Love yourself and treat yourself kindly!  Too many of us beat ourselves up when we desperately want a relationship, but are not in that space yet.  We think we are unlovable, or not good enough.  We may diet, exercise, or do other things to try to make ourselves “perfect.”  Spirit’s advice is to take care of you, love yourself, and keep yourself balanced.  You don’t have to be perfect to attract your mate; you just have to be ready for the lessons that your new mate is going to be bringing you.  Remember, when you love yourself and can see the beauty of you, you attract to you the person who is ready to receive the beauty of you!

Do things that make you happy, healthy and balanced, even if you are alone! While it is true that relationships often inspire us, too often we sit around and wait for our lives to begin.  We think that our life will begin once we are in a relationship.  The truth is, your life should always be lived for today and the now.  The future is always now.  Do the things that you know, in your heart, that you want to do.  Don’t wait for another person to come along before you become inspired!  This may be taking care of your diet, or it may be your creative endeavors.  Maybe you always love to go to the museum, but don’t want to go alone?  Grab a friend or a loved-one and go!

Don’t whine about not being happy because you haven’t met your mate! Too often I see people completely frozen in life because they haven’t met their “man” or “woman” yet.  They complain to anyone that will listen, and usually drive most of their friends and loved-ones away with this behavior.  I feel for them, I truly do, because they want love so very much.  They cannot even be happy for others that have found love, because they are bitterly jealous.  The problem is that they need to go back to step one-Loving themselves.  If they loved themselves then they wouldn’t need someone else so desperately to make things “right” in their life.  The appropriate space to hold is a place where you are happy and content, and are optimistic and excited about the future and the prospects of sharing your life with another.  You are doing the things that make you happy, including following your dreams, and you know that love will find you when the timing is Divine.  Remember, when you hold that negative space of complaining about never having what you want, you will get more of the same according to the Laws of Attraction!

So let’s say you met someone-congratulations and good for you!  Do you move forward in the relationship being honest with yourself and them?  Do you keep your heart open and optimistic?  Do you even give love a chance?  Many of us have old emotional baggage that we carry around that is clearly not serving us, but we cannot seem to let it go.  Here are some tips from Spirit for when you actually do meet someone and begin a relationship.

Let go of old relationship behaviors that no longer serve you.  Are you always jealous in relationships?  Do you have some serious trust issues?  Do you sabotage the relationship even though you are quite happy, just so you don’t have to worry about being hurt or abandoned down the road?  These are some of the very common behaviors that people display in relationships.  Spirit says some soul-searching is necessary, and some personal work.  This may not be easy, because you may have to take responsibility for things that you feel more comfortable blaming someone else for.   Ask yourself why you do what you do.  It doesn’t have to cost thousands of dollars in therapy to get some answers and progress.  When you start having an honest and open dialogue with yourself, you will be surprised at the answers you receive.  It may be difficult at first to realize that some of your behaviors have caused relationships to go south in the past, but seeing your patterns will help you try to move past them and grow.

Have fun!  Relationships are supposed to be fun!  I am not saying that there are no issues or challenges in relationships, of course there are, but you don’t have to turn every issue into a dramatic event.  Discuss things with an open heart and mind.  Your relationship should be a blast!  You should enjoy each other’s company and love spending time together.  It doesn’t mean that you don’t have a life outside of the relationship; I think that is very healthy.  If you are not having fun in a relationship, or it is way more work than fun, you seriously need to reevaluate whether you are right for each other at this stage in your life. 

Don’t hold the person so tightly that you smother them.  As I just said, a life outside of the relationship is important.  Of course you enjoy being with your love, but you should not drop all of your friends and family.  Sometimes this happens at the beginning of a relationship naturally while you are getting to know the person, and this is alright, but balance is key.  When we find someone whom we love and feel that they “complete” us, our instinct is often to want them forever and ever.  In life, things change, and people change.  What serves us on our path one day may not the next.  We are in relationships to learn and grow, and sometimes they end.  Enjoy your relationship and love with an open heart, and live in the now.  Do not worry about the future and trying to hold the person forever.  Sometimes that very thing drives a person away.  Some of us came to have those lengthy-grow old together relationships, and some of us came to have many relationships.  It isn’t accurate to gage your success in relationships in this manner, because you may find you experience immense growth from a rather short relationship. 

Agree to be enchanted!  So many of us see that storybook romance, and really want to experience it, but our relationships always fall short.  Spirit has a few thoughts on this.  It is impossible to be jaded and untrusting and find bliss in a relationship.  Remember though, you attract to you people who are vibrating at the same level.  So if you find a way to let go of all of your negative baggage, you will attract a person with a much higher vibration who is also ready to have that great love.  If it is what you want, then know you deserve it and find a way to get yourself in the space to receive it.  If you don’t think you are deserving of it, remember, you will not get it.  You cannot receive something wonderful when you don’t think you deserve it!  (Shall we go back to step one, love yourself?) 

Dream big, and don’t let anyone tell you it cannot happen.  I believe in the power of love and so does the Universe!  Take fifteen minutes a day to think about what you want, whether it is a relationship, a new house, or a different career.  Use your imagination and know that it can be yours! 

May you all be lucky in love through an open and honest heart!

May 1st, 2009

Guidance From the Guides, “Medium Stories” © 2009 My Spirit Guides/Tobi Titchener

Many times people ask me what it is like for me to do readings. My Guides and people from the other side have an uncanny ability to use my own symbols in order to get me to understand what they are communicating.

Most mediums are clairvoyant and clairaudient, meaning they see and hear. Some mediums are clairsentient as well, meaning they can feel the person’s personality, or the emotions coming through. My main gift is claircognizance, which is a sense of knowing. However, I also see, hear and feel too-depending on the day or who is coming through.

The best way to explain how I work is to give examples. So I have decided to list some for you so that you may see all of the various ways they come through. I also hope this will help you realize all of the different ways that your own Peeps (Guides and loved ones that have crossed over) may try to contact you!

For instance, to get me to say Richard they showed me Richard Simmons (yes, sweatband, 80’s shorts and all!) To get me to say Patty they recited “Patty cake” in my head. I suddenly had the urge to do the old Patty Cake rhyme with my client! To get me to say Charlie, they showed me the logo for an old restaurant/bar in Syracuse that was my best friend’s favorite hang-out, called “Hungry Charlie’s”. Another good one-my client’s parents were from Columbus, so they showed me Columbo!

Sometimes I hear the names, but not always! The above are perfect examples of My Guides using symbols with me.

Sometimes people that have crossed come to me days or weeks ahead of time and spend time with me. I can feel them get closer right before a person’s reading, either that day or the evening before. Here are some stories:

A day before a reading, one client’s Uncle came to me while I was just getting ready to nap and showed me a really sweet little pig. Half-dazed I remember saying, “Oh look it’s Wilbur” (from Charlotte’s web). He then said “Uncle Wilbur”.

Similarly, I had someone’s grandfather come to me the evening before a sitting and show me a giant jack (like children play with) right before I fell asleep. I knew “Jack” was with me. He also showed me he was into mining when he was alive. Sure enough, my client had a grandfather named Jack that was into mining!

For about two weeks before a client came to me I kept singing “Two Tickets to Paradise” by Eddie Money. It turned out that my client had two tickets for a cruise and had her friend that she was going to go with back out. She wanted to know if she should keep the other ticket. Spirit said “YES!”

I also had another song stuck in my head for over two weeks; it was Fleetwood Macs song, “Edge of Seventeen”. I walked around singing, “Just like the white-winged dove, sings a song, sound like she’s singing, ooo baby ooo.” A client came to me and I was doing the reading, I saw a sick little white bird in my hand. I told her about it and the song that had been playing in my head for two weeks. It turned out it was her mother, and not only was Fleetwood Mac her mother’s favorite, but that song was played at her funeral!

My favorite is something that just recently happened. I was just sitting down to go to bed and suddenly my hands went up in the air and I said “Raise the Roof” aloud. For those of you that know me, it is not uncommon for me to speak or move quite unexpectedly. This strange behavior is guided by Spirit, but it still shocks and surprises me sometimes! The very next thought in my head was, “Raise the roof beam high carpenter” which is a J.D. Salinger book. The actual title is “Raise high, the Roof Beam, Carpenters.” I was close. I knew it meant something, but I did not know what at the time. Two days later a client called to book and appointment for he and his wife. He said his brother J.D. referred him to me. “Aha!” I thought, I see why they did that. It didn’t end there though, when he came in for his sitting Spirit also told me he was a Carpenter!

You may ask why they use symbols, or why they reach us in the way that they do. Why do they sing songs to us? Why, for instance, would they show me a giant jar of pickles for a client? Well it just so happened that that client had bought a giant jar of pickles the week before and her son had been eating a pickle a day! They are telling us that they are around and they know what we are up to. They send their love from the other side in so many different ways, if we can just be open!

How do I feel about it all? I feel comforted! I love knowing that we all have so many people on the other side that watch out for us, and love and guide us. No matter how alone we feel we are truly never alone. We all have more people with us that most of us can imagine. It is my passion to show this to people, or rather to remind people of this fact. Our loved ones never truly leave us, for they truly do come to us through our hearts!

Guidance From the Guides, “Medium Stories” © 2009 My Spirit Guides/Tobi Titchener

March 31st, 2009