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Let’s face it, life is a challenge sometimes. We try our hardest to do the best we can, but sometimes still feel like we are not successful. We ALL have challenges in this life, regardless of how it looks from the “outside” perspective. The key is to learn and grow from our challenges and let them open our hearts to compassion and love instead of closing us off and keeping us entrenched in fear and doubt.
How do we look on the “bright side” when we feel like there isn’t one?
I have health challenges. I have written about them before. They are not something I am able to control, although I spent almost a decade trying to do so. In my controlling and ego-based mindset, I thought if I just ate a certain way, or didn’t eat certain things, or took the right combination of supplements, then I would feel better. You wouldn’t believe the hundreds of combinations I have tried over the past ten years!
What I have discovered though, is that the answers do not lie in controlling behaviors. For me, answers do not lie in pills to mask the symptoms. My answers lie within my heart and have always been there, I was just too afraid to look. The “bright-side” that we look for is the hope and love and connection to “Source” that only come to us through our hearts.
My body imbalances are here to help me open my heart to compassion and love. Let’s face it, all of our challenges are here to help us find our heart center and true nature.
So, do you let the circumstances in your life drive a wedge between you and the world? Do you embrace the fear and use it to keep you shrouded in the illusion of separation? Do you think that it is really you versus the world?
I know many people do feel this way. Life has beaten them up so badly that they feel that their choices have been taken away from them. They feel like life is “happening” to them, and they are a victim to the terrible circumstances that seemingly come at them, time and time again.
We are not victims though, and have never been victims. We are Divine expressions of love. We are beautiful, brilliant, powerful, loving, amazing, joyful, creative, (the list goes on!), but we are NOT victims. Nothing is happening to us that we haven’t called to us on some level to help us grow and move towards wholeness. The longer one thinks one is a victim, the longer it will take for them to move past the negative circumstances that continue to barrage them in this life.
Embracing this thought pattern leads to other thought patterns that are very far from the Divine being that we are. When we are victims we tend to judge others, lack compassion, lose hope, be ill or imbalanced, and forget that we are the powerful beings that we are! When we are in these thought patterns, we tend to think our circumstances are the worst–case of the “one-upper”, often heard saying “You think you have it bad, that’s nothing…I have much worse circumstances.”
When you are having a rough time, has anyone ever said, “It’s ok, it’s alright. It’s all gonna be alright. You are fine, you are just having a rough time.” Doesn’t it feel wonderful to have someone not judge you and just support and love you? Wouldn’t you want to do that for someone else? Instead of judging them and making them feel worse, wouldn’t you want to tell them you love them and that they are doing just fine in this game we call life?
Because, believe it or not, we ARE all doing just fine in this game called life. We are all finding our way back to our center and there is no wrong or right way to do it. We are growing and expanding, and remembering that love is the only answer-for ourselves, others and the world.
So I invite you to try to view your own circumstances through a different set of eyes. If you have been having a rough time, perhaps you can be gentle and nurturing towards yourself. I also invite you to do the same for the ones around you who find themselves in challenging situations. Compassion and love will go a long way towards bringing the joyful abundance into our lives that we so crave. Remember, you get what you send out. You attract to you what you are giving to others. Find a way towards love and letting go of judgment and control and you will find yourself flowing with the Divinity of your heart.
Even if you cannot hold that space for very long, make a conscious effort to show appreciation, gratitude, love, and compassion towards yourself and others. The more you do this, the better you will feel, and your life circumstances will reflect your efforts! Opening the heart is a process though, and it doesn’t happen overnight for most people because we are comfortable in our routines. The judgment, control and negative attitudes we have adopted are familiar to us.
But keep it up! My guess is, once you start flowing gratitude and love you will crave it. You will notice how you feel when you are embracing negative emotions over positive ones, and you will not like how you feel. You will be a witness, watching yourself and deciding how you would like to “show up.”
Many blessings to you all on your fabulous journeys!
Tobi’s personal recommendation for reading, “Oneness” by Rasha.
November 24th, 2009
Indeed, sometimes a psychic DOES know what is coming. Mostly, I think psychics would tell you that they get more information for others than they do for themselves. I do have information about my future that has been shown to me, but I also know my Higher Self and Guides block a lot of information for my own learning and benefit according to my soul path and contract.
I do see random things though, which often becomes like a game or a puzzle to me, trying to figure out why they show me a particular bit of information. I also want to give you a laugh at all of the random things I “see” before I actually see. In other words, things that I “know,” “hear,” or “see” before I see them or experience them in the physical dimension.
The other day I was getting my brows waxed at my friend’s spa. I was just relaxing and then suddenly I caught a flash of a Hawaiian ice, and then a clown wig, both multi-colored. I “heard” multi-layered colors at the same time. I had no idea what it meant but I tucked it in my back pocket as I always do.
We went to dinner and enjoyed some Thai food. At dinner I got pigs and piggy banks while my friend was chatting. Piggy banks were not a message either of us understood, so I tucked that in my back pocket with the multi-layered colors.
After dinner, we spontaneously decided to stop for a coffee and at our favorite shop to browse. On the way, I remembered we were by a huge liquor store that was the only one that I knew of that carried my favorite wine. On the spur of the moment we decided to stop there. As soon as we walked in, one of the first displays we saw was a bottle of Absolut with rainbow stripes on it. We both opened our mouths and pointed, we knew immediately why I got the information before. It was a multi-layered colored bottle celebrating forty years of gay pride put out by Absolut.
Then, after we got a coffee and went next door to our favorite shop, the pigs came into play. My friend was making a purchase, and by the register, in a muffin tin were many small trinkets. One of sections was filled with mini pink piggies. I picked up a little piggy and showed my friend and she knew what the piggy and piggy-bank message was.
Why do they tell me seemingly mundane information ahead of time you might ask? What relevance does that have to anything? What I have come to realize is that it is my Guides and Higher Self’s way of letting me know that they know where I am going to be and what I am going to be doing quite a bit ahead of time, and before I do. They also do it to let me know they are around, and it helps me stay connected. Often it also signifies I am on the right path, or where I need to be as well. But honestly, I really enjoy it, it is like a fun puzzle to me that I get to solve. If they want to give me more substantial information, they do. I do enjoy piecing together the puzzles though.
Some other examples of recent puzzles I have solved.
I hear “Knob hill” and cannot place it. Two days later I am driving downtown and went the wrong way and ended up going the long way around and drove past a place called “Nob Hill.”
I am driving in my car and the odometer is on 777.2, and I drive the long way around to try to make it 7777. I have a sudden obsession to make it show four sevens. That night I had plans to go to a movie, and I didn’t know exactly where the theater was, so I looked it up online. The theater address was 7777 E Hampden Ave!
The other day I was trying to fall asleep and couldn’t so I decided to play a little game I always do when I have trouble getting to sleep—I list things. It popped into my head to list the seven dwarfs, although I had no success whatsoever trying. I remember thinking, “I can’t remember the seven dwarfs!” When my sister came over, I felt compelled to tell her about the seven dwarfs, and for good reason. She had just entered a contest for a Snow White dvd where she had to list the seven dwarfs. She also had just watched the movie!
Was on a trip to Jefferson, TX with my friend Sandy (a highly populated ghost town—more ghosts then people!) and got both “Take me to the River”, and also “One Love” by Bob Marley. Both of those songs went around and around in my head. When we got back to Dallas we went into a store that carried a brand called “Life is Good”, which are tee-shirts with inspirational messages. Inside the store I came across a tee-shirt that said “Take me to the River” and had a stick figure carrying a kayak. I also saw a tee-shirt that said “Let’s get together and feel alright,” a line from “One Love!”
In meditation the other day I got a Chinese horse and heard “dynasties.” I have been sick and watching a lot of movies, and last night decided to watch the latest mummy movie, which is called “Curse of the Dragon Emperor,” which discusses Chinese dynasties. I had no idea I was going to watch that movie at the time! Another one while I was sick-got “Red Chief” and saw an Indian Chief. Watched another movie while I was under the weather in which a main character came out with a red tee-shirt on with an Indian chief on it.
They showed me elephants and said “elephants,” and while eating breakfast yesterday morning I opened up a catalog straight to a page of elephant art, statuary and the like.
This morning I heard someone singing “YMCA.” When I went to Emma to work on a newsletter the YMCA logo flashed under “businesses that use Emma.”
The list goes on, and I must say it makes my days quite a bit more fun to connect with the other side and get little clues about what is in store for me. We have free will, certainly, but I can tell you that the “other side” has quite a bit more understanding of probable outcomes. They have proven that to me in many ways since I started walking the psychic pathway!
I encourage you to write down random things that pop into your mind, or random phrases, songs, pictures, etc…you may find that if you pay attention, the other side will show you glimpses as well! Pay particularly close attention to the symbols of your dreams, for dreams are often profound, telling and precognitive. Often if you try to just remember things, it is very difficult. I highly recommend a journal where you jot down your intuitive hits. Some of them may not pan-out, or may be questionable, but others will be quite specific, and will shock and surprise you! Good luck!
October 20th, 2009
I have a good friend whose mother has crossed over and she comes through for her quite a bit when we are together. She has given wonderful validation many times, but had never told me her name. I told my friend, “Don’t tell me her name, I am gonna get it!” I felt pretty optimistic that I would eventually get her name, although Spirit always has their own schedule, I am reminded of that almost daily. We spent several months with her mother coming through, not mentioning her name, but giving me other validation for her.
Her mother showed me a big “cootie” bug (like the game) to tell me that her daughter’s nickname was “cootie bug” when she was little. She showed me the colors of her house at one point in time, and a macramé owl that my friend had made was she was younger that her mom had refused to get rid of (even though my friend thought it was heinous). She also showed me she was an accountant, had beautiful handwriting, loved crossword puzzles, and that one of her favorite words was “phooey”……but still no name. Since her first sitting with me, before she was my friend, I had really been bringing through her mother for almost a year without her telling me her name. But we waited patiently.
The day I received her mother’s name was a day that I was scheduled to do readings at a local healing center. I was pretty booked up for the day, but had felt a strong intuition to ask my friend to come for a proper sitting at the center (I usually just bring her mom through during dinner.) I kept saying to myself, “I really don’t think my friend wants to come clear over here for a reading, when I give her information regularly when we are together.” But I kept feeling the need to have her come, so I asked her and she said yes. (Later she told me that she figured I had a reason if I asked her, and that is why she came with no questions.)
I was a little spacey in the morning as I prepared for my day, which is normal for me, especially before doing five hours of readings. I was making a protein shake to take with me, and was so spacey that I seemingly misplaced the lid for the empty protein shake container, and we always save them for handy storage. My mother and I looked everywhere for it, including the trash, but could not find it. Finally we gave up and thought it would show up eventually. While looking for it though, I heard the name “Micky”, and then heard “Oh Micky you’re so fine, you’re so fine you blow my mind, hey Micky.” I new that song well, because I had the album back in the 80’s. “Ok Micky,” I thought, “you belong to someone, I am sure I will find out who today.”
As I was heading out down the stairs to leave, I looked down at my nails and heard, “If you don’t trim that nail it’s going to bug you all day!” I immediately agreed, thinking nothing of hearing this in my head, because I hear a lot in my head on a daily basis. As I opened the pantry doors and reached for the nail trimmers, there was the lid to the protein shake. Right at eye level, and somewhere where it absolutely shouldn’t be, and I wouldn’t have consciously placed it. I called my mom and showed her, and she laughed and said, “That’s Spirit’s doing for sure!”
As I was walking out the door I remembered “Micky” again and thought that all of the morning’s events were tied to her. I was excited to find out who she belonged to. I know Micky can be a male’s name too, but I did not get a sense that who came through was male.
At the healing center, I was very busy, but asked a few of my clients if they knew a Micky. I felt compelled to find the owner. Then I thought, they will just bring it back through for the person who they belong to, and I relaxed a little with this knowledge. Then my friend came in. As I started her reading, I blurted out, “Do you know a Micky?” I surprised myself because it came right out of my mouth, and I thought surely it doesn’t belong to her. That is always a mistake for me, “thinking” in a reading. They can take over my vocal cords if they want, they can trance me out, they can find a way to get the message to the person, and they did.
“Mickie is my mom.” She said smiling (I changed the spelling to reflect the accurate spelling of her mom’s name. I had thought “Micky” because that was the spelling I was familiar with. Remember she said it, but she didn’t spell it for me.) We both got up and jumped up and down, both so excited that she finally gave her that validation. “She wouldn’t have shown you Mickey Mouse because she hated that reference.” My friend told me.
It was a special day for us all, because the validation was so meaningful for my friend. I don’t know why she waited so long to tell me, perhaps Spirit was giving me a lesson in timing or patience. Most likely it had nothing to do with me, but had to do with my friend and when it was the best time for her to get the validation. I just knew she would give it to me, and I knew that when she chose to it wouldn’t be hard to receive it. When they want me to know something, I know it, that is the way I am wired. I felt very appreciative though, and always do when such great information comes through. Even though I get names or partial names quite a bit more than I used to, every time it comes through I am always excited.
I hope sharing this story with you will bring you some joy in knowing your “peeps” on the other side are around and love you. That sure did surprise my friend that day, but in a very positive and uplifting way. It is what Spirit loves to do, and I love to help them do it!
September 11th, 2009
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